Knowing and Doing the Will of God

This week I’ve been reflecting on how to find a new direction.When life changes, how do we know where to go or which way to turn? It’s where I’m at–and I’ve had the same discussion with at least four others this week. Circumstances have changed, life has changed, there has been a loss–now what? Here…

Thoughts on Suffering

One of the certainties of life is suffering. There is flooding in Texas. In my personal world, a young woman is fighting cancer and treatment is uncertain. Friends lost their 25-year-old brother unexpectedly. Our world is one of pain, grief, loss, disappointment, failure, betrayal, and anxiety. No one is exempt. It may come in different forms,…

Marriage – Design and Dysfunction

In God’s Word, we see His design for marriage but in our lives and world we don’t have to look far to realize something has gone wrong. What do we see when we look at God’s design?  Design:  In the first 3 chapters of Genesis, we must start with recognizing that both man and woman…

What if I fail?

In Biblical Counseling, as in the rest of life, we fear failing. Before we start counseling one of our biggest fears is failing. If we are honest, even after counseling for years we can fear failure. There are things about counseling that make fear a difficult thing to shake. We are trying to help people…

Benefits of Record Keeping

When a friend from church asked if I would help her with spiritual growth I said of course, then paused. “I’ve been to a couple of conferences on biblical counseling but I’m not sure how it works. Could I practice on you?” She said yes and we got started. I didn’t know much about biblical…

The Role of Prayer in Biblical Counseling

If we are Biblical Counselors we all agree that prayer has a role in Biblical Counseling. However, if you are like me, sometimes it is relegated to the role of opening, or closing a session of counseling and possibly throwing up a prayer when you know you are really in trouble as a counselor. There…

Recommended Reading! Punting on First Down by Mark Shaw

This article written by Mark Shaw is a timely word to the church about caring for those with self harm issues, specifically addictions who need biblical guidance and support through this difficult time in their lives. I find it timely because, now more than ever, we have people in our churches who are struggling with…

Got Faith?

We tend to put faith in the domain of the unknown and unseen. It has a mysterious, nebulous component. After all, how do you define faith? You can’t see or feel it. Isn’t faith something you hope for that hasn’t even happened? Yes…and no. When we view faith as something “out there” and distant, we…

The Fear of the Lord; The Beginning of Wisdom

In 1 Samuel we see two men who have many things in common, but with a couple huge differences that make all the difference. Those 2 differences were: 1. Anointing 2. Fear   1. As we know Saul was chosen by the people because of his might. God allowed this with the warning that they…

When Life Happens

Lest this blog get sin-heavy, let me be quick and sure to say that life happens. Suffering happens. There is no escape. It isn’t always tied to our sin and it’s not necessarily a consequence. James 1 comes to mind when I think about “life” happening. Chapter 1, verse 2 says, “My brethren, count it…